I was talking to my Princess Charming and she told me that if I were a Disney character, she thinks I would be Belle… I just thought this was funny considering the existence of this blog and was wondering what you all thought of her observation. I can certainly see the parallels that exist, but I can also see parallels with Cinderella. Perhaps I need to watch the movies again. I think it’s all mood dependent… What is the princesses opinions?
-Cinderella
I’ve been debating whether or not to post this but I think it merits a story.
I have this skirt. Not just any skirt, it’s a skirt I’ve had since I was about 13. It’s that school girl skirt I think I wore a total of once in high school and I wore it last year for Halloween as a “naughty school girl.” It’s very short on me now as I’ve grown a bit since I was 13. Anyways I wore it a few nights ago and well Limey was more than appreciative of said skirt. He liked it so much he managed to rip it in his enthusiasm. I mean fair enough he’s a muscular guy but really? Actually rip a piece of clothing?! It’s something I never actually thought would happen. It just seemed too ridiculous, like something out of a Cosmo article, or romance novel, or even fanfiction; just not real life. I’m in such awe over it that I don’t even think I want to mend my skirt. I kind of want to keep it like it is. He was very apologetic later. Although I think he was almost proud but still said he was sorry… With a smirk on his face. I’ll definitely be laughing about it for awhile and going to tease him about it whenever I get the chance. Anyways I hope you girls had a laugh.
~Jasmine
I figured it out! I figured out why he’s been bugging me so much as of late. He’s been sick and I realized he is absolutely oblivious to how aliments and medications work. He’s paranoid and asks questions that from my point of view are ridiculous. I shouldn’t be so surprised and should have more patience. But it does bother me; they’re things I think are common sense but don’t seem so much to him. Last night he had a migraine, he’s been having one since Wednesday, told me last night any sort of light seemed very bright to him. I asked him why he didn’t tell me sooner, said he just thought he was dehydrated. Except he’d been drinking water all day. He wasn’t puking or anything of the sort, no fever, nothing, so clearly he wasn’t losing water and still chalked it up to dehydration. Earlier that day he’d taken ibuprofen for his headache and two minutes later says oh ya I’m feeling great lets go out… … Medicine unless injected isn’t exactly instantaneous. I know for a fact things like Advil take about half an hour to kick in. It’s not his area of expertise nor can I say it’s mine, but really some of the things he asks are pretty elementary. So it grates on me. And he’s pigeon toed! Not that that really has an impact on anything, it’s just a pet peeve from dance. Turn out, turn out, turn out! Not in, out! Like I said I need to be more patient and not let little things get to me.
~Jasmine
It’s not like there’s anything wrong per say. It’s not like he’s done anything wrong, yet I find myself getting distant and unwilling to be around him. Limey is great, he really is and I should be thrilled to be spending the week with him as I haven’t seen him for weeks and yet I’m annoyed.
He got back yesterday and I got in on Sunday after being on Holiday. We’re staying at a friends flat, just the two of us, with the whole place to ourselves for the next few days. I should be thrilled. No interruptions to worry about or course work, just time for the two of us to hang out. But I’m getting annoyed. Little things that don’t usually annoy me, are now. I’m being short and critical and I know he doesn’t deserve that. He’s done nothing but be wonderful. Maybe it’s the fact that we are sort of living together for the next few days and it’s a bit too domestic for comfort. I do really care for him and am very happy with him, but for some reason right now I feel like running. Any advice?
~Jasmine
so with it being over a month since computer broke up with me you would think i would stop missing him. Ever nigh i with he was there to snuggle and say the cute stuff he used to. I am finding being over him harder and herder, as time goes by i miss him more and more. I cant help but think if he misses me to? I don’t know. One part of me hopes he does and is ready for this to be a real relationship. The other part (and maybe more realistic?) has concluded that he dosent think i am right for him. But I still have feeling for him and they are not going away. And yes if i saw him tomorrow and he asked me out again I would go. I that good or bad. And is there any math magic that could happen to make him want me as much as i still want him?
Snow White
I don’t know what to say, or what to do…
I’ve talked to most of you about my problems with my Princess Charming. How she seems to have just lost her charm so to speak. If I haven’t talked to you, then you should know that my relationship has consistently spiraled in the southward direction for about three months. This appears to continue no matter how hard I try to communicate to her that its not working, or that I’m unhappy because I miss her. We will talk, I will cry, she will realize this really is hurting me, and she’ll be better for about a week… then the process repeats. I’m trying to be understanding because I realize she really has nothing going for her right now and I’m the only positive thing in her life, but its really hard. I know she’s depressed, and I know she needs me to be there for her, but I don’t know how and I’m getting to the point that I’m unsure if I want to. She’s pushing me so hard to leave while trying to pull me close at the same time and I’m fighting with myself over what I should do, but this isn’t the hard part. The hard part is I’m met someone…
Let’s call her Promise, because she made the best promise I’ve heard in a long time. She mad the promise she might talk to me later, which was perfect since it means she can’t break it. I like that. Actually there are a lot of things I like about her. She’s mature (and 25), intelligent, witty, ambitious, talented, and has some of the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen in my life. Today I did something spontaneous because she asked me to… I don’t do spontaneous! I never have, and yet something about her made me want to record a video of myself singing an indie pop song and send it to her. She loved it and asked me to record another one, and you know what? I want to. I absolutely hate the way that my voice sounds on camera but I want to do that for her. I don’t know why. Maybe its because I’m looking for something else because my relationship is so sour, or because those eyes give me butterflies, or maybe its because I relate to her. She’s a scientist, she loves music, she’s made mistakes and she knows she’s not prefect but she’s trying to better herself every day. She comes with baggage, just like everyone else and she’s open about it. And the best part? She knows about my girlfriend and she gets it. She gets that I miss her and I love her, and she understands that I have wants and needs that my Princess Charming can’t fulfill. She’s fine with it.
This leads us to the next problem… The last time we talked about how much the status of our relationship was upsetting me, my highly monogamous Princess Charming suggested that if I was still unsatisfied after she had tried to fix the problem, then she said we could try an open relationship. I gave her another chance, and it got a little better, but not much. Until last night at 3:04AM, I was going to flat out tell her this, and tell her I met someone, and tell her I want that open relationship before every speaking to Promise. That’s how I wanted it because I don’t want anything I do to be in the wrong. Why? Because I love her. But today, in the wee small hours of the morning, she called me out of the blue, told me she wrote me a letter, and apologized for still not changing the way she’s been acting WITHOUT BEING PROMPTED.
I feel like an asshole… she really is a Princess Charming, she’s just in a tight spot, and while until tonight I did nothing more than have casual conversation with Promise, I should have told her. I should have told her two weeks ago when I met this girl. I should have told her every day sense… but I kept telling myself, oh maybe it’ll just be platonic, and maybe it won’t matter, I’ll just tell her if anything changes. And it did… and I didn’t tell her. And now my stomach hurts so bad and I don’t know if its the butterflies from the conversation I just had or if its the guilt from the one I didn’t.
I know I have to tell her. I know it’s the only option. I know what I am doing is wrong… but a part of me just wants to wait for that letter to see what it says. To see just how sorry she is. To read that she loves me… to believe it can still work.
My Princess Charming will be here in 15 days, but we haven’t had a real conversation that isn’t about our relationship in months. Promise can be here in under two hours, no matter the day, and tonight she was an hour late to hang out with her friends because she wanted to talk to me. I never once asked her to stay. In fact, I told her she should probably go multiple times, but she stayed because she wanted to. My Princess Charming won’t even make an hour in her day for me…
What do I do? Someone tell me please because I don’t know and I don’t want to become someone that I would hate.
Sincerely,
Cinderella
This post isn’t about me, it’s about Ariel. Not too long ago she found out her Prince Charming was anything but. He cheated on her. And by that I don’t mean he was drunk and kissed a girl, I mean he slept with some random girl over the summer, got her pregnant, found out she’d had a miscarriage, and only then decided to tell Ariel about his infidelity. It’s shocking. This was the frog Ariel was willing to stay in a relationship with while she would be gone for a year. Something we all know is quite a challenge for Ariel. But she was willing to do it for him, to stay with him. She thought this was the guy she would marry. I’ve never seen Ariel look so fragil. It was heart wrenching. When she told me I was shocked, appauled that he would do something like that and not feel remorse. He pretended everything was alright, that things were great when the reality was something very different. He left her vulnerable, something I never thought I’d see Ariel as. I know she’ll be ok. She’s doing much better now, but it will take time for her to move on. She needs us now, any words of comfort will be more than appreciated.
~Jasmine
Oi, have I not said that in a long time. But it’s true, I now have a frog to call my own. I am no longer on the singles’ market and am officially with Limey. He gave me a chocolate bear before asking me out, it was adorable. But it has been years since I’ve been in an actual relationship so I’m a little unsure of what to do now. I’m happy though. He’s a genuinely good guy, something I haven’t experienced in quiet awhile.
I’ll admit I’m a little petrified but as a good friend from my pond told me, I just need to plant myself and enjoy this. I don’t know where things will go from here, but so far it’s been going well. I haven’t felt unsure with him, it’s just worked. I feel confident in where I stand with him and that is something I’ve needed for a long time; stability and commitment. Limey is the type of guy who doesn’t play games (at least not that I’ve seen) and it’s a nice change from some of the guys I’ve been with. I also don’t at all feel the urge to hedge my bets. I’m happy to be his and glad to call him mine.
~a rather giddy Jasmine ; )
Well computer and I are no more. It seems that he didn’t want to put time into our relationship. I saw it coming, but still. The wost thing is now I don’t have a date to the Twilight premiere on Friday 
. To hell with the guy, but did he have to ruin that too? frustrating.
Snow White
Okay so here is an update on computer, and by now you should all have a visual. I talked to him about his bad habits, and we came to an agreement that he will not do anything around me, and i will not he put in a position as an RA that i would have to write him up. So that is working well. Since you all last heard he has been amazing and sweet! He took me to a little Italian restaurant down town and we had an amazing night!
I was also on Duty and had to stay on campus all weekend, so he kept me company. He would not let me walk to meet the officers for rounds alone, but insisted on walking me. I was also not allowed to go to bed without saying goodnight. He waited until almost three am for me, just so I could give him a goodnight kiss. We ended up watching a show called the killing. It’s sorta our thing. We snuggle and watch it, this reminds me he loves to snuggle. So have spent evenings falling asleep watching t.v. only to wake up and remember Phoebe is in my room alone… (don’t worry i was a responsible pet mom and always came home to sleep with her) Though i have wished i brought her with me so i didn’t have to leave. To sum up he is sweet, kind, understanding, and a great snuggler.
He is a bit shy and an introvert but i was able to convince him to go out with a group of people for haunted lazier tag. He talked to some of the other people but mostly just stuck be me. So he will go and be around people sometimes but he also needs his alone time. I think that is understandable.
Now that there is some more background I can talk about my conundrum. In the past i have believed in no sex before marriage. This is something i have been thinking a lot about even before i started going out with computer. So i am weighing the options. I like the idea of only sleeping with the person you know you will marry, but how realistic is that? I may not find that prince charming for a long time, or this could be my prince charming. On the other hand I don’t want to be the slut or person that sleeps with everyone. So i guess the question is how do i know when i am ready?
This brings me back to tonight. So were watching T.V but to be honest mostly making out. One thing lead to another and i was again faced with the question sleep with him or not. As i knew going into this that my mind has yet to be made up i didn’t because i knew i could have regretted it. But i also thought i would have more time to figure out an answer. In the moment i wanted to say yes, but should i? Thankfully he was okay with my decision and did not pressure me at all. Would it be too soon to sleep with him though? I dont know, as you can see there is a delima. Ant thoughts?
~ Snow White
